Modern technology and science has allowed people to live longer than ever before. However, a longer life means more time spent in retirement and more support needed for aging adults. The CDC estimates that 80% of older adults have at least one chronic health condition.
As a child, it’s no fun watching your parents age, but there are several things you can do to support them in the latter phase of life to make them feel loved, cared for, and taken care of even after they pass away.
Provide emotional support
Depression in the elderly is not uncommon. And, if your parents require home healthcare or hospitalization, their chances of depression increase drastically. As your parents age, they may have fewer people in their lives with whom to stay connected.
This means it’s even more important to check in regularly with your parents to see how they’re doing, not just physically, but mentally as well. Regular check-ins can make your parents feel supported and cared for, helping them to feel better about their lives as they age. Consider making in-person visits if possible with grandchildren, who are almost certain to bring a smile to their faces. Alternatively, if a parent seems very down, suggest they see a professional counselor who is trained to support the elderly through emotional struggles.
Help with financial matters
Even if your parents are retired, they still need to budget for expenses, pay bills, and maintain good financial health. Encourage your parents to have legal documents in place, like their wills, power of attorney, and advance healthcare directives. It’s also possible that your parents live long enough that they can’t afford their lifestyle. Ask your parents if they are financially stable for the coming years, and whether you or your siblings will have to pitch in to support them financially.
Plan for emergencies
Between health, finances, and living arrangements, there are so many things to take care of when you get older. These can feel like a burden, especially if you aren’t feeling up to the task. As a child of an aging parent, you may be more equipped to handle many of these issues. Talk to your parents about what to do in case of an emergency and who should be contacted.
Just remember to ask your parents’ permission before handling any of their logistical needs. While some people might appreciate the help, others may still want to handle these matters on their own.
Talk about their plan
End-of-life planning is not the most uplifting topic to discuss, but that doesn’t make it any less important. Your parents’ end-of-life plan will play an important role in how you manage their care in certain situations as they age, and after they pass away. Make sure you understand your parents’ financial and health plan in case anything unexpected arises.
This includes:
- Healthcare planning
- Estate plan and will
- Burial preferences
- Organizing important documents
Start now
The sooner you communicate with your parents about their end-of-life plan, logistics, and expectations, the better. Begin to understand their needs as they age and what you can do to help. The last thing you’ll want is to be stuck in an unexpected situation with your aging parents and have no idea about their wishes or information to help the situation.